Just say NO

Learning to say ‘no’ is very hard but it is an essential part of life. The art of saying no with the right touch of apology yet retaining your sense of dignity is a difficult one to master.

The first step is to pick your priorities in life and stick to it like a leech. Of course if you have made poor choices, life will steady you until you get it right but once you have understood them, nourish them and never let go. Only a fool will let trifles make him lose sight of a treasure.

It is crucial to dedicate the right amount of time to nurture your priorities and prepare towards chosen goals. As time is a limited commodity, it becomes necessary to refuse showering it on less deserving subjects.

After mustering up enough courage to decline an offer, care should be taken to do it gently without demonstrating any self-righteous anger or untoward guilt. It should be done quickly and firmly without unsavory justifications. Beware of your mind’s tendency to put the blame on someone else.

Once you have succeeded in uttering the dreaded words, it is important to never look back and wonder about what would have been. Let go of it like a bird released from a cage to freedom, never to revisit or mourn over.

Devoid of unnecessary remorse, this simple task can be lifesaving. With a lightened heart, unburdened by needless thoughts or actions, return immediately to what deserves your sincere attention and you will definitely succeed.